Brenda Schaeffer

The focus of this site is to foster an understanding of love and love addiction. It is intended to help you identify the characteristics of healthy love and addictive love and free you to live life more abundantly. As you will learn, real love is not addiction, nor is addiction love. Yet, these two experiences can come together and result in tremendous pain and suffering. My hope is that you will find at least one piece of information here that impacts your love life in a meaningful way. This site is not intended to cure specific problems. However, with increased awareness, we can begin to solve relationship problems with more compassion and with lasting effect. My hope is that this site gives you a few more pieces to life's puzzle. Let me know if and how it helps you.


Is it LOVE or is it Addiction?

The completely updated and expanded edition of the best-selling book that changed the way we think about romance and intimacy! Includes new information on the biology of addiction, impact of technology on relationships, and new chapters on sex and romance addiction.

"Brenda Schaeffer is one of those gifted recovery writers whose works someday will be regarded as classic." Patrick J. Carnes

"Her recommendations for healthy belonging are right on. An enthusiastic thumbs up!"
Jennifer Schneider, M.D.

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Heidi Schaeffer

LOVE or Addiction
The Power & Peril of Teen Sex and Romance
Everything you need to know about teen relationships.
Download Teen CD at Love or Addiction Teen CD
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Inner Reflections
Guided Meditations by Dr. Schaeffer with serene music fromĀ  SoulFood.
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Soulfood - Inner Reflections
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WCCO Interview
  Listen to the podcast of Dr. Schaeffer's interview on "News and Views with Roshini Rajkumar". She can be heard on the 4/13/14 2 pm hour. Here is the Link

New Blog Post
  Check out Dr. Schaeffer's last post on "Love and Health" on her blog. Click here to read.

Personal Growth Retreat
  Healthy Relationships is pleased to again offer it's popular "Personal Growth Retreat", September 19-21, 2014, Spooner, WI. For more info & to register

Love Addiction Training
  Starts weekend of February 28 -March 2, 2014. 6 part course for professionals and paraprofessionals who want to enhance skills for working with couples, groups and teens. For more info & to register



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